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LOVE AND LOGIC PARENTING

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Marriage and Family therapist counseling I n all parts of their lives, children with great manners have a powerful advantage over those who do not. They make friends easier, get along better with their teachers, and eventually make much better employees and spouses. Here are four techniques that will give your child this life-long gift Tip No. 1:Make a list. Sit down with your kids and make a list of the specific behaviors polite people display. Have fun with this activity. Your written list might look something like: • Say “please” and “thank you” • Eat with their mouths closed •Burp in the privacy of their own rooms • Say “excuse me” •        Hold doors open for people Tip No. 2: Model these manners. Children learn much more from our actions than from our words. Tip No. 3: Provide kids what they want only when they use manners. When parents use Love and Logic, they don’t waste their breath lecturing about good manner...

FAIR FIGHTING RULES BETWEEN THE COUPLE

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Before you begin, ask yourself why you feel upset. Are you truly angry because your partner left the mustard on the counter? Or are you upset because you feel like you’re doing an uneven share of the housework, and this is just one more piece of evidence? Take time to visit Islamic Counseling Services in Brookfield about your own feelings before starting an argument. Discuss one issue at a time. “You shouldn’t be spending so much money without talking to me” can quickly turn into “You don’t care about our family”. Now you need to resolve two problems instead of one. Plus, when an argument starts to get off topic, it can easily become about everything a person has ever done wrong. We’ve all done a lot wrong, so this can be especially cumbersome. No degrading language. Discuss the issue, not the person. No put-downs, swearing, or name-calling. Degrading language is an attempt to express negative feelings while making sure your partner feels just as bad. This will ju...